• Shahab Nilgiri

The Problem With The Self -Help Industry

I'm all about self help, and the potential it has to change everything for you. As a matter a fact, it's SO important that you have some level of self help routine in your day. But there's a problem.

Most self help suggests you read an hour everyday, wake up super early and work out, as well as do 40 different wellness habits right from the get go.

What's the problem with this?

Self Help Isn't Just Thinking Positive

I believe lots of individuals have a misconception that the life coaching / self development industry is just all about affirmations and thinking positive. This couldn't be further from the truth.

When you're in ill health, it's not enough to just think yourself to better health. You need the proper actions to accompany you. It's the same thing with any kind of coaching you might do with yourself/with a coach.

If there's an area of your life you're unhappy with, it's not enough to just simply think positive. Yes, have goals, but what are the steps to get closer to that?

The issue that I feel lots of people have, is that the industry makes it seem like it's a quick fix.

- Just have some goals, and everything will be fine

- The universe will align with you if you just tell it what you want

- Everything is energy, and you have to vibrate a certain way

These are all fine, and I believe these to a certain extent.

Self help IS NOT simply just thinking better. That's a big part of it, but it's definitely not the only thing.

Self help is more along the lines of recognizing where you are, where you want to be, and how you are going to get there.

Self help is...

- Awareness of yourself

- Not being afraid to work on yourself

- Asking for help when needed

- Being your own accountability coach (or get one)

- Continue the pattern, even when you don't feel like it

So, all this being said....

How Do You Make Sure You Are Getting The Most Out Of Your Self Development Journey?

1. Find Out Where You Are Now

This one gets overlooked a bit more than we'd like to admit, because it's hard. Find out EXACTLY where you are now from a goals perspective. If it's not where you want to be, how do you change it? Can you break it down into mini sub-goals?

2. Be Okay With The Present, But Don't Justify

This piece of advice almost makes it seem like it's okay to justify where we're at currently, but that's not what this means.

It means being okay with how things are now, but also being open to changing your habits, your pattern, your surroundings (if need be) and do the things necessary to change up your present.

3. Don't Be Afraid To Invest In Yourself

This doesn't mean getting coaching necessarily, but let's say there's a new skill you want to acquire, then find a workshop. Everything that you need to do, you have the resources necessary. This is when investing in yourself becomes a tool, and a good one at that.

4. Create Your Plan Of Action, And Stick With It

Now that you know what it is you want to do, find out how you actually get it.

Who do you have to talk to? Where do you have to be?

Find people who have what you want, and do more of what they are doing.

5. Meditate, And Appreciate

You should meditate to really take care of your mind, and make sure it's not going all over the place, but you should also really take some time to appreciate how far you've actually come.

Take a minute and really assess, how much your situation has changed, because it has quite a bit.

To Wrap It All Up....

Appreciate where you are now, because you can always change that.

Don't simply rely on thinking, but think and DO!

Be accountable to yourself, because without that, you'll be back on your old habit patterns.

Need Some Help?

If you need some level of accountability coaching, with creating better habits for yourself and gaining a better sense of positive self perspective, then I would LOVE to help you out.

Let's book a call and have a chat together.

Listen, if we're a great fit, excellent! If not, no harm done!


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