• Shahab Nilgiri

The Reality Of Changing Your Life Vs The Ideal





So many of us want to change things in our life, and then we pretty much wake up to a rude awakening.


If things were going to be as easy as we imagined it to be, things would be A LOT easier.


Let's go over a few examples of how this might look.


Reading 20 Pages A Day


I can speak from experience...


You plan on reading either 20 minutes, or 20 pages, and by the time that moment comes, you end up being tired, maybe hungry, and your motivation to do this new habit goes out the window.


Initially, you are pumped about this new beginning. You've heard about the great benefits of reading (instagram posts don't count) and you are more than sure that nothing will get in the way.


Reality is, things almost never go as planned. Either something external comes up, or you get an internal dialogue going on that defeats the initial purpose.


Waking Up 20 Minutes Earlier Than Usual


I'm sure this is one that most people can definitely relate to...


We all know the benefits of waking up early, but not all of us are inclined to do this act, even though we've heard the stories, and know the benefits.


I wake up early regardless (sometimes 4:45 am), and even though I tend to meditate in the morning and do some stretching, I can feel my mind being a bit hazy, and my body feels tired because I'm not fully awake.


It is VERY easy to judge all of those things, and allow yourself to not do any of these things anymore.


Writing Out Your Goals For The Next Year


With this one, it's motivating to write your goals out, then you get fired up about doing the tasks necessary to get to this other point.


Once the tasks start getting harder, once you find out that you need to invest a bit more time, the motivation ( for most people ) tends to drop down. I've had this happen, and sometimes the energy still goes low.


The Biggest Lesson


Be open to the idea that not everything is going to go your way. This is where the "M.A.D" principle comes into play. Mentality, Adaption, Discipline.


You have to be willing to change your mentality towards your goals, your tasks, and work towards being open to temporary "failure"


Don't close yourself off from adapting to new habits. To get to these new goals, you need new/updated habits. The more closed off your consciousness is to working towards yourself AND knowing that it's not going to be pretty roses, the easier it will be for you to get through the mundane times.


Discipline yourself to try again, and again, and again.


Rules are there as a guideline, but it doesn't mean that they can't be broken.


Find joy in not knowing whether or not you'll be able to stick with your daily written plans, or not knowing whether or not this day is going to be as fantastic as you wished it to be.



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